Oh dear, I was supposed to take a break for another day.
But dear, this topic feels just so good that I wanna write now. Well, fair point, if I wait until the next days, I won’t have that same vigor and surge of alertness I have now. I would eventually forget a part of it.
So I was actually assessing my current performance on being a writer on the platforms to see what works and what’s not, and to be able to tailor my content or the way I adjust how I reach our fellow bunso. Well of course, being just in our baby stage on being a content creator, it’s not promising for now… well at least for now. I just did like any other curious hooman would do and that is do some Google searches and AI prompting just to gather ideas on why the hell is this happening.
And then stumbled and realized upon a more profound truth that I felt resonated with. Hear me out:
I was so used on spending my time on finding the right answers on what to do, while I failed to consider the options to explore in order to see if it works.
From “Does it work?” to “Let’s see if it works?” is the mental shift I needed for now.46Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡJLaYVZRRne
From acquiring options to experimenting them
But to content creators? Nah it’s probably not a secret at all, and it’s their ABC skill. It’s that ability to experiment with different contents to see if what works for their own niche or even the marketing strategy.
Maybe I was just too afraid of failing, oh man, what if nobody appreciates my work? What if it’s bad or whatever? I would feel like I’m just writing on a void for no one, and that’s a fear for someone my personality, who just desires his works to mean something… to at least give value to the people who needs it. If I don’t, then it just feel less human because my words never connected or resonated to someone. It just felt useless.
As I have indeed made as a pact: “Whoever needs it the most will find it.” I might sure appreciate it’s depth of meaning but I am still on the process of internalizing it. Hopefully soon I will. I just got too caught up of the outcomes.
At least it was a first actual step of really feeling that you don’t need to worry about the outcomes. Whatever the numbers say, the right people will grasp these words with value and appreciation, even silently behind screens.
So why was it a big deal really? Like why have I reacted so passionately on having that insight?
Honestly, I don’t know.
Nah just kidding.
Of course, I’d try to make sense of it… so it really ties about how I see every effort as having to mean something, like it has to carry some value and every move it carries has direct impact to my own worth. Yes, surprisingly, even at these stages, I still am adjusting with that reality. I still crave to be valued, bunso. I’m no different than you or any human is.
Ok so kuya, how do you verbalize these words with confidence? I mean these are such vulnerable statements about you that anyone out there in the world would see. Why do you still dare to type these out?46Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡw6MKQTQlrw
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The truth is? Confidence is never about what you see. It’s about what you see about yourself. Your belief about yourself. And I cite (The Girl I met at the 8th night, 2025) for that
But seriously, if you really think about it, if I just tied my self-worth on that? Then I’ll crush out. Imagine everyone in the world sees what you are. Oh what if others say, “Oh you’re such a hypocrite because you were saying these and then you act like this??” Truth is I don’t wanna be that guru or teachers you’d usually see on mainstream media. Heck, I don’t even wanna be recognized by that. That’s feels too shallow and insincere for me. Learn from your kuya with both strengths AND my flaws. It’s what makes me a human. A human that can be with you because I can connect and relate because it’s what makes me whole. Know that everything I say would always have imperfections, and this is actually what our quote in the very first parts were supporting all along.
If you’re trying to find for the right answers all your life, you won’t find them. In fact? You won’t find answers at all. You’ll find options.
And experimenting with these options is life’s definition of living it. And I’m also in this journey right now. I ain’t finish yet. There are still a lot of things that I still don’t know about life.
To be fair, I actually felt more free to see me as human, than just being good and flawless. Why? You’ll worry how you maintain that image every day. But if you’re human, you won’t worry about your image. You actually worry about how you make the most of your time instead.
So this idea of shifting our mindset from trying to find the right answers into exploring these options instead? This also applies to life in every set of choices we are about to do in life.
You know even while I’m typing these words now? I just realized you know the one thing that actually instilled that “needing the right answer” mindset subconsciously in us is on school. Notice how we do exams? We are graded based on whether we get the RIGHT answer, not the most CREATIVE or maybe EXPRESSIVE answer. Multiple choices, identification, problem solving in mathematics or any other computation problems.
Oh you’re saying essay? Nah, that’s a trap. Teachers don’t actually grade you for how you actually crafted your own words and they have that specific rubrics that they still expect you to comply like organization, clarity, coherence, yada-yada… I don’t blame them. It’s just literally IMPOSSIBLE to accurately grade an essay based on actual competence of a child.
And if I don’t score enough correct answers… which means high scores? Then my grades will suffer, then my parents will scold me to “death” (metaphorically hopefully). It’s just too risky NOT to go to the right answer. I just wanna play it safe. As long as I know it is right, I’m sticking there because it is guaranteed as safe.
Well, I don’t see anything wrong with being right. I mean on high stakes or life or death situations like performing a surgery or presiding a court hearing, you must be expected to perform the RIGHT actions here. But the problem is if it’s the ONLY mindset that we have. Then it holds us back to what could have been, to what we could’ve achieved. This is where a lot of potentials die in every children that is forced to live in a world that only wants to find what’s right just to survive.
To the young ones, when you have identity crisis: What’s the one most common prevailing thought you have? Why am I here? Is it? Or at least similar, but the thought of your question or tension is finding the right answer cause it’s where you can feel secure. When life feels uncertain, you never know what’s to come and you can be caught off-guard and left hopeless.
To the old ones, when you have mid-life crisis: Oh I’m not there yet. But all I could do right now is just anticipate. So thoughts are more on did I really achieve what I intend to achieve in this life? It’s all about fulfillment. We are still seeking answers.
Oh wow, it’s scary that the context kinda fits on its own. The moment we start to shift our thinking into exploring options instead of finding the right one, then we live in a state of abundance knowing there’s always something to have.
This also cuts our anxiety of worrying whether we actually did the right thing. It detaches our ego from dwelling on the outcome. The truth is? Let it be.
Now there’s actually one crucial exception that I have to address here or else it could be taken out of context: relationships. Whether it be romantic or platonic. You can’t just say “explore options” here, that’s just ain’t right. Relationships is not about having more, unlike experiences. It’s about having the most of it. And yes, you kinda have to think your relationships over here. Who your friends are can mold your character. Who your spouse be can shape your future and that of your children. Unless you’re in a culture that allows polygamous relationship, well I respect their life and perhaps they have still their sentiments that I still can’t truly understand yet, so let’s respect it. But for me, for now, I’m more into monogamous relationship, because I value depth on relationships more than quantity.
This is another support all along as to why we must stop searching for the right paths and instead start exploring them now. Because if we are so focusing on looking, we miss exploring the whole “city” of life.
So how does it relate to me now in the next days? Well being a content creator is kinda fun now if your framed it that way. It becomes less of a chore and more like a playground. Because you just feel like experimenting and see what works after a set of tries and then modify with a new “meta” and then try again, until you get stronger and wiser.
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