When I married Chin, I knew I was not just marrying the woman I loved. I was also committing myself to the dreams she carried in her heart. Marriage, after all, is not only about sharing a house, a bed, and a surname. It is about sharing visions, supporting passions, and becoming cheerleaders for each other’s growth. I have learned through the years that supporting her passions is not a small thing. It is the very fuel that keeps our marriage alive and full of wonder.
Her Love for Beautiful Places
Chin has always had this dream of seeing beautiful places with me. Sometimes she would scroll through travel blogs and show me pictures of turquoise beaches in Palawan, cobblestone streets in Europe, or temples in Japan. Her eyes light up whenever she says, “Someday, we will go here together.” That look alone makes me want to work harder, to make sure we can turn those dreams into reality.
Supporting her passion for travel is not just about saving money for plane tickets or planning itineraries. It is about nurturing her sense of wonder. Sometimes, even when we cannot travel far, I surprise her with short trips. We have gone to Tagaytay for quick weekend getaways, eaten bulalo overlooking Taal Volcano, or strolled by the lakeside hand in hand. To Chin, these little adventures matter as much as the big ones because they tell her that I am listening to her heart.
One time, we took a bus trip to Baguio. The ride was long, the traffic exhausting, but the moment we arrived, Chin smiled as if the whole world was brighter. She wanted to go to the BenCab Museum, sip hot chocolate in Café by the Ruins, and walk along Session Road like teenagers. It was not about the money or the prestige of travel. It was about experiencing life together, creating memories we could look back on. Supporting her passion for seeing beautiful places is not only about going somewhere new. It is about giving her the assurance that her dreams matter to me as much as they matter to her.
Her Curiosity About Human Behavior
Another passion of Chin is unlocking the secrets of human behavior. She is fascinated by psychology, how people think, why they make decisions, and what drives their emotions. Many times, I catch her reading articles, watching documentaries, or sharing insights she discovered. I could easily dismiss these as hobbies, but I know they are part of her greater dream to understand people better and maybe even help others through her writing.
Supporting this passion means I take the time to listen to her when she shares her thoughts. Even after a long day at work, when she talks about the things she read or theories she finds interesting, I lean in and give her my attention. I may not always have the same enthusiasm for psychology, but my interest grows because her excitement is contagious.
Sometimes, she tests her insights on me, asking me questions about how I felt in certain situations or what I thought when something happened. Instead of brushing her off, I engage with her. I tell her honestly what goes through my mind. It helps me understand myself too, but more importantly, it helps her pursue her passion. Supporting her is not about pretending I am as passionate about the subject as she is. It is about respecting her curiosity and encouraging her to keep learning.
Her Passion for Writing
Out of all her passions, writing is the one that burns brightest in Chin. I have seen her lose herself in words, filling notebooks, typing late into the night, and sharing stories that capture both pain and beauty. Writing is not just a hobby for her. It is her way of making sense of the world. It is her way of giving voice to the unspoken feelings that many people keep hidden.
At first, I admit I did not fully grasp how important writing was to her. I thought it was just something she did in her free time. But the more I watched her, the more I understood. Writing is her sanctuary. When life gets overwhelming, writing gives her clarity. When she feels joyful, writing helps her celebrate. When she feels broken, writing gives her healing.
Supporting her writing journey means I make space for it in our marriage. Sometimes that means giving her quiet time while I take care of chores. Sometimes that means reading her drafts and giving feedback, even if I am not an expert in literature. Sometimes that means brainstorming ideas with her or encouraging her to keep going when she feels stuck.
We even decided to build a small side hustle out of her passion. We started writing and selling our works together. It was not just about earning extra income. It was about creating something together that reflected our love and her gift. Working as a team in writing has brought us closer. It has taught me patience, creativity, and respect for her craft.
Everyday Ways of Supporting Her
Supporting Chin’s passions is not always about grand gestures. More often than not, it shows in small, everyday choices.
When she wants to buy books, I never complain even if our shelves are already overflowing. I know that each book feeds her mind and heart.
When she is working on a piece, I sometimes make her coffee or bring her snacks so she can keep her focus.
When she doubts herself, I remind her of how much she has already accomplished and how many people she inspires.
These may seem like little things, but they are actually the building blocks of encouragement. They remind Chin that she is not walking her path alone. She has a husband who believes in her.
Balancing Her Passions with Our Marriage
Of course, supporting her passions also means finding balance. There are times when Chin gets so absorbed in her writing that she forgets to eat or sleep. That is when I gently remind her to rest, to take care of her health, and to remember that her body also needs nurturing.
Sometimes we compromise. If she has deadlines, I take on more chores so she can focus. When I have work demands, she does the same for me. We remind each other that while passions are important, so is our relationship. Supporting her does not mean losing myself. It means finding harmony where both our needs are honored.
Why Supporting Her Passions Matters
Marriage is not about clipping each other’s wings. It is about helping each other fly. When I support Chin’s passions, I am telling her that her individuality still matters, even within our togetherness. I am telling her that being my wife does not mean giving up her dreams. On the contrary, it means having a partner who cheers her on.
And in turn, Chin supports me too. She believes in my abilities, encourages my ideas, and celebrates my achievements. This mutual support keeps our marriage strong. It reminds us that love is not just about romance but also about respect and partnership.
Scenes of Us Supporting Each Other
One afternoon, Chin and I were sitting in a coffee shop. She had her laptop open, lost in her writing. I was beside her, reading through some of her drafts. Every now and then, she would ask me, “What do you think of this line?” I would give my honest opinion, and she would smile, saying, “I knew you would catch that.” Those little moments of collaboration feel magical because they show that we are not just lovers. We are teammates.
Another time, she told me about her dream of visiting Kyoto in cherry blossom season. I could have said it was impractical, but instead, I said, “Let us make a plan. Even if it takes years, we will go.” Her face lit up as if the dream had already come true. Supporting her dream in that moment cost me nothing but gave her everything.
And there are times when she thanks me for listening to her theories about people and behavior. She once said, “You make me feel that my thoughts matter.” That is what support really is—making the other person feel seen and heard.
Reflection
Supporting Chin’s passions has taught me that love is not only about affection. It is also about partnership. It is about standing by her dreams, even when they are still seeds, and helping them grow into reality. It is about listening, encouraging, and sometimes carrying part of the weight so she can soar higher.
For me, supporting her passions is not a burden. It is a privilege. I get to witness her becoming the fullest version of herself. I get to be part of her journey, not as a spectator but as her number one fan.
In the end, marriage is a dance of dreams. Some are mine, some are hers, and many are shared. But the most beautiful ones are the dreams we nurture together.
And as long as Chin has passions burning in her heart, I will be there—standing by her, cheering for her, and reminding her every day that she is not alone.
Because supporting her passions is not just about her. It is about us. It is about building a marriage where love means freedom, encouragement, and the joy of seeing each other shine.
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